Gaining Respect from Your Foes
By: Lect. Smeerah Atshan Al Fayyadh
Whether they’re rivals, critics, or people who simply don’t see eye to eye with you, gaining respect from your foes — is a powerful skill. It doesn’t mean making them like you. It means earning enough regard that they acknowledge your strength, your values, and your presence. Here one can find how to reach that goal:
Know Yourself First: Confidence without arrogance is magnetic. Be clear on your principles, your strengths, and your limits. People respect those who are grounded in who they are — especially those who don’t waver under pressure.
Stay Calm Under Fire: Never underestimate the power of composure. When someone is trying to provoke or undermine you, and you stay calm, it shows power. Emotional control signals strength — and people respect strength.
Speak with Clarity and Purpose: Avoid unnecessary aggression or defensiveness. Make your words count. Speak directly, honestly, and firmly. People who know what they’re saying — and don’t waste words — command attention, even from those who disagree.
Be Consistent: Don’t flip-flop or chase approval. Stick to your values and decisions, even when it’s hard. Consistency shows integrity. And even your enemies will respect someone who doesn’t change their tune depending on the crowd.
Respect Them First: This might sound counterintuitive — but offering basic respect (not weakness) shows maturity. You can disagree with someone’s stance, challenge their actions, or even oppose them fully — and still treat them with a level of civility. That’s what separates leaders from reactionaries.
Deliver Results: Nothing commands more respect than getting things done. Whether in academics, business, or life, showing that you can walk the walk — not just talk — forces even your critics to take you seriously.
Don’t Play Dirty: If you stoop to underhanded tactics, you might win a moment, but lose long-term credibility. Play fair, fight smart. You earn more respect by standing tall than by sinking low.
Own Your Mistakes: If you mess up, admit it. That’s strength, not weakness. Accountability is rare — and people, even your enemies, notice it.
Let Your Character Speak for You: People will hear rumors, gossip, and opinions. But if you show up with integrity again and again, over time, even your enemies will say: “I don’t like them, but I respect them.”
